Well bd foubd out i was pregnant and did not talk to me for 4 mnths when i first foun dout then out of nowhere he started calling and wanting to come around so i did talk to him for my sons sake. Now just so you know he is married and supposedly getting divorced he runs in and out of my life I'm due in three weeks he calls every other day to see how I am doing but the other day I went into the hospital for ck up and they said I was losing amnotic fluid that they might have to admit me if it gets any worse so I call himto tell him what is going on he tells me he is busy he will call me back he doesnt call back for almost two days to find out what is going on I really wanna just be strong and never tlak to him again but then there is this side to me that still cares and loves him am I crazy?????? And when I tellhimhow I feel he always says he cares but thngs just slip his mind I dont know how soemthing so serious could slip your mind especially regarding your kid... Have any advice please let me now
i know this is going to be hard to hear, but as much as you still care about him, it really doesn't seem like he cares about you.
you'd be better off without him.
Since he does call you (however infrequently) it shows he has some type of interest/care for you, even though he could and should be doing a better job. if I were you, I would do my best to establish that un-romantic relationship that it seems he is willing to have.
Normally, when a couple breaks up, even when they WANT to be friends, some time apart helps alot to numb the feelings of love or rejection.
I also think you should hold him accountable as a father, outside any romantic relationship you might miss or want. If you haven't applied for child support, do it now.
Oh, you definitely need to start that paperwork early. They only hold him accountable to pay from the time you file. My paperwork wasn't completely finished (because of the paternity test he skipped out on) until October, my son had been born in June, and had been his child since June, but they only held him accountable from October. How ridiculous is that??
I'm sorry he's treating you so badly. If I were you, I'd completely stop taking his calls for a while. He needs to realize you don't NEED him so he can appreciate you better. I know it sounds like a game, but it works. Once he realizes he's not the be-all-end-all of your life, your sun does not rise and set on his kester, he'll develop more respect for you pretty damn fast. Especially if you do it now, because he'll realize "hey, if I don't treat this woman better, I'll never see my son." And if that child means anything to him, he'll rethink the way he treats you.